FAQs
My answer – I got you sis. Let me walk you step-by-step but first things first, relax sis.
1. Start by just sitting on his penis. Make sure you’re comfortable when you sit.
2. Find what feels good for YOU. It can be by grinding on his penis, rolling your hips, moving side to side or even going up and down.
3. Some women say it’s easier to ride on the chair than on the bed so give that a try.
4. Use your hands – place them on his chest or thighs for support as you move
5. Keep trying until you get it right. You can’t become a PRO in a day.
6. Drinking red wine before sex can help you loosen up a bit and give you the courage you need. You’re welcome!
My answer – 1. Vaginal dryness (not being wet enough or well aroused before penetration)
2. conditions like fibroids, PID (pelvic inflammatory diseases), ovarian cysts, endometriosis
3. infections like yeast infection, bacterial vaginosis or urinary tract infection (UTI)
4. tight pelvic floor muscles
5. vaginismus – can be caused by fear, anxiety or past trauma
6. vulvodynia – chronic pain in the vulva area
If you’re experiencing pain during sex, especially at the beginning or during penetration, it could be due to insufficient foreplay. Increasing foreplay to at least 20 minutes, using lube, and ensuring you’re relaxed can help. Positions like spooning, missionary with a pillow under your hips, cowgirl, or lotus can also make things more comfortable. However, if the pain is more internal, like abdominal pain, it could be related to conditions such as pelvic inflammatory disease, fibroids, ovarian cysts, endometriosis, or PCOS. These are medical issues, and it’s best to consult a doctor, ideally a gynecologist, to get the proper diagnosis and treatment.
My answer – I think he wants you to take more control during sex and actively participate.
1. First of, get my blowjob ebook and learn how to make him moan with your mouth
2. Initiate sex with him. You can send him a naughty text during the day. Whisper naughty things in his ears.
3. Talk dirty to him (I love how your D feels in me, I love how you fuck me). Let him know how much you want him
4. Moan during sex. Make noise
5. Play with his nipples. Lick his ears.
6. Throw your ass back during doggy
7. Come on top and ride him like a stallion
6. Kiss and tease him
7. Give him a massage with baby oil
8. Grab him during sex too, especially in missionary. Don’t just lie there.
My answer – The first step is to ask her what she likes. That’s how you can keep it enjoyable for her. Here are some other tips:
– set the mood with dim lights and sensual music
– explore her body – from her neck, to her ears, to her lips; to her breasts, to her back and to her inner thighs
– take your time – don’t rush through foreplay
– talk dirty to her
– go down on her and pay special attention to her clitoris
– change positions. Try roleplay
– use sex toys on her.
My answer – Vaginismus is the culprit. Nothing is wrong with you. Vaginismus can be caused by nervousness, lack of arousal or foreplay. Pain can also occur due to the hymen stretching or tearing during initial penetration. If you decide to try again:
- spend plenty of time on foreplay to help you relax and feel aroused. At least 20 minutes. I’d advise your partner to go down on you before penetration.
– use a water based lubricant like durex, fiesta
– take your time. Take deep breaths. The more relaxed you are, the less likely you are to experience pain.
– consider pelvic floor exercises.
If any of these don’t work, you might need further guidance and support.
What you’re feeling is more common than you think. What you can do is to learn a lot about sexual health and performance. Think of sex as a shared experience of intimacy rather than a performance where you need to prove yourself. Ask your girlfriend for feedback or what she likes. Eat healthy and stay active. Do your kegel exercises. Focus on enjoying the moment with your babe instead of worrying about your performance. Explore new positions or foreplay activity with your babe. Have fun.
Hmmm. Does this pain only happen during doggy? If yes, it could be the angle and depth of penetration causing the pain. First, let’s do a test to rule out PID, fibroids and cysts because they cause sharp pain during penetration in some positions. If it’s none of that, let your husband be more gentle during doggy. Let him not penetrate too deep too. Do COLLAPSED DOGGY instead with a pillow under your stomach. Use lubricant too.
It’s not weird to enjoy hearing men moan. Everyone has different things that turn them on. It doesn’t make you a freak. Most women love to hear their men moan in bed. It can be very arousing and satisfying.
Since you’re a little shy, a little bit of red wine can help you loosen up a bit. You can send him a flirty or naughty text message during the day to raise his anticipation. Consider using blindfolds or having sex with the lights off. Other ways to spice things up – get my blowjob ebook and learn how to make him moan with your mouth, talk dirty to him (I love how your D feels in me, I love how you fck me) Let him know how much you want him, moan during sex. Make noise, play with his nipples. Lick his ears and tease him. Give him a massage with baby oil. Grab him during sex too, especially in missionary. Don’t just lie there. You can try role play. You’ll get better with practice.
It’s okay to feel shy about initiating sex. Since you’re shy, you can start by sending a flirty text to your partner. Having sex with dim or no lights can also help. Start with simple physical gestures like cuddling, holding hands, or gentle kisses. Let the intimacy build naturally from there. Red wine can also help you get out of your head and be less shy.
Why don’t you enjoy sex? Past experiences? Pain? Anxiety? I would always recommend that you explore your body to find out what feels good for you and then communicate that to your partner. Also, spend more time on foreplay so your body can get more aroused which can make sex more enjoyable. And don’t be afraid to experiment with different sex positions or techniques until you find out what you enjoy the most.
Yes. It’s quite normal. During sex, the in-and-out motion of the penis can cause tiny tears and cuts around the vagina opening which can lead to a stinging feeling when you pee. As long as you don’t feel abdominal pain when you pee, you’re fine.
As long as you’re protecting yourself with condoms, you can have sex when you’re ovulating.
Your man is dealing with delayed ejaculation. Does he eventually cum or does he not cum at all? Talk to your man about how you’re feeling. Some men can control when they cum. When you’re tired, you can tell him to cum. You could also try different positions, foreplay techniques or even take breaks during sex to prevent fatigue. Using lube during sex can also help.
Your boyfriend is dealing with PREMATURE EJACULATION which is quite common. Here are some things that can help him last longer:
1) Kegel exercises (please read more about them)
2) Edging – when he feels he’s about to cum, he should pull out and gently squeeze the base of his penis
3) Condoms can reduce sensitivity and help him last longer
4) I also heard bitter kola can help. Eating bananas and watermelon too.
5) You can also focus more on non-penetrative sex acts like oral sex, foreplay, using toys, etc. This way, you can experience pleasure even if the penetration doesn’t last.
Finally, if you’re feeling completely unsatisfied and his efforts to improve things are not working, you might not be sexually compatible. You might want to carefully consider if this relationship is the right fit for you.