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Hello Elizabeth, I feel like I have more pleasure and more satisfaction when touching myself than when having sex. Is that normal and what is the cause of it?

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Yes, it’s completely normal to feel like you get more pleasure from masturbation than sex. Why? Because you know your body better than anyone else—you know the exact rhythm, pressure, and touch that sends you over the edge.

Maybe it’s the way you touch your clit, the angle of your fingers, or how you take your time. These are things your partner may not instinctively know.

To bridge the gap between solo and partnered pleasure, you can:

Show or guide your partner using what you already enjoy

Masturbate together to help them learn your rhythm

Incorporate toys or techniques you use solo into your sex life

Pleasure isn’t one-size-fits-all. The goal is to feel good, alone or with a partner.

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Hi Elizabeth, I haven’t had sex for a long time and I’m single. I usually help myself by masturbating but whenever I’m done I usually feel guilty because of the Christian beliefs about masturbating but that’s the only way plus I don’t want to get involved with any man who isn’t ready to be serious but each time I help myself I can’t help but feel guilty. I even went two months without touching myself lol and I’m back at it now because horniness wan kill me.

Category: Masturbation

What you’re experiencing is called cognitive dissonance. When your personal beliefs clash with your actions. You enjoy the pleasure of masturbation, but your Christian values make you feel guilty afterward. You’re not alone, masturbation guilt is something many people feel.

The truth? Masturbation is completely normal. If it’s helping you cope without compromising your values or relationships, it may be worth reframing your mindset around it. Focus on your pleasure, not the shame.

But if you’d like to take a break from it, that’s okay too. Try shifting your focus to hobbies, exercise, deep breathing, or creative activities when the urge hits.

Whether you choose to masturbate or not, the key is to feel at peace with your decision.

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You said masturbation is good, but how does one reduce or stop when one is an addict and can’t do without it?

Category: Masturbation

How to Stop Masturbation Addiction—7 Proven Tips

1. Identify your triggers (boredom, porn, stress)

2. ⁠Find activities to distract yourself when the urge comes. Activities like exercising, reading, or socializing can help shift focus.

3. ⁠Spend more time in outdoors.

4. Avoid watching porn or content that triggers the urge.

5. ⁠instead of quitting all at once, try reducing the frequency with which you masturbate gradually. For example, if you do it everyday, you can set a goal to do it thrice a week instead. That’s more realistic. 

6. ⁠Give yourself grace. Habits are difficult to break.

7. ⁠Have an accountability partner. Someone that you can be honest with.

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