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Q: You said masturbation is good, but how does one reduce or stop when one is an addict and can't do without it?

1. Identify your triggers (boredom? Porn?) 2. Find activities to distract yourself when the urge comes. Activities like exercising, reading, or socializing can help shift focus. 3. Spend more time in outdoors. 4. Avoid watching porn or content that triggers the urge. 5. instead of quitting all at once, try reducing the frequency with which you masturbate gradually. For example, if you do it everyday, you can set a goal to do it thrice a week instead. That’s more realistic. 6. Give yourself grace. Habits are difficult to break. 7. Have an accountability partner. Someone that you can be honest with.

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Hello Elizabeth, I feel like I have more pleasure and more satisfaction when touching myself than when having sex. Is that normal and what is the cause of it?

Category: Masturbation

It is normal. You know your body better and you know the techniques and rhythm that works for you. Maybe it’s the way you touch your clits or finger yourself? To bridge the gap, you might want to explore how to bring what you enjoy when you touch yourself into your sexual experiences with your partner.

Hi Elizabeth, I haven’t had sex for a long time and I’m single. I usually help myself by masturbating but whenever I’m done I usually feel guilty because of the Christian beliefs about masturbating but that’s the only way plus I don’t want to get involved with any man who isn’t ready to be serious but each time I help myself I can’t help but feel guilty. I even went two months without touching myself lol and I’m back at it now because horniness wan kill me.

Category: Masturbation

You’re experiencing COGNITIVE DISSONANCE. Your Christian beliefs don’t align with your desire for pleasure which is very common. However, masturbation is a common behavior that many people engage in. Focus on the pleasure you enjoy rather than the shame associated with it. If you don’t want to do it, you can find other ways to release your sexual tension through exercises, or engaging in hobbies to keep your mind occupied.

You said masturbation is good, but how does one reduce or stop when one is an addict and can’t do without it?

Category: Masturbation

1. Identify your triggers (boredom? Porn?)

2. ⁠Find activities to distract yourself when the urge comes. Activities like exercising, reading, or socializing can help shift focus.

3. ⁠Spend more time in outdoors.

4. Avoid watching porn or content that triggers the urge.

5. ⁠instead of quitting all at once, try reducing the frequency with which you masturbate gradually. For example, if you do it everyday, you can set a goal to do it thrice a week instead. That’s more realistic.

6. ⁠Give yourself grace. Habits are difficult to break.

7. ⁠Have an accountability partner. Someone that you can be honest with.