FAQs

What do I think about anal? As a sex educator and sex writer, I have written a lot about anal sex so I know that the anus is packed with loads of nerve endings. Anal sex can be very pleasurable and there are some benefits to it. 

Now, anal sex requires a lot of warmup, foreplay and relaxation. You can’t just jump into anal like vaginal sex. When done right, anal sex should be painless. First things first, you need to DOUCHE to clean out your anus of ‘feces’ at least 2 hours before anal. 

To enjoy anal, your mind and body needs to be relaxed. You want to start with lots of foreplay on other parts of the body. Then massage the butt cheeks and the butt crack. You’re going to need lots of lube, particularly silicone-based lube. Start penetration with the pinky finger. And then a thumb. Insert and then remove, insert again and remove. Later, you’ll be able to go in with 2 fingers. Take your time. 

When you’re ready to penetrate, don’t go deep too soon. Anal sex can be more enjoyable with a smaller penis than with a bigger one. 

You can’t get pregnant from anal sex and you need condoms because the anus is filled with a lot of bad bacteria.

That diaper thing is mostly a myth, but I get why people say it—it comes from the idea that frequent anal sex could weaken the anal sphincter over time.

Pros of Anal Sex:

1. It can be highly pleasurable

2. ⁠It can lead to intense orgasms for some people 

3. ⁠It adds variety to your sex life

Cons of Anal Sex:

1. Higher Risk of Injury – The anus doesn’t self-lubricate, so without enough lube and preparation, there’s a risk of tears.

2. ⁠Increased Risk of STIs – The lining of the anus is delicate, making it easier to contract infections like HIV, gonorrhea, and chlamydia.

3. ⁠Hygiene Concerns – If not done properly, there’s a risk of bacterial infections, both for the person receiving and their partner.