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Just curious. Am I the only that peeing after sex sting down there. And is it healthy?
You’re not alone, it’s actually quite common to feel a sting when you pee after sex. This can happen because the thrusting motion during sex can cause tiny microtears or friction near the vaginal opening. These small tears can make it sting slightly when you urinate afterward. As long as the stinging is mild and...
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Hi Lizzy. My man and I had sex, then the next day I started seeing blood for just two days. It wasn’t much though. Is it ok please?
It’s not uncommon to experience light bleeding after sex. This kind of spotting may be caused by friction during penetration, especially if you weren’t fully lubricated, or due to cervical sensitivity which can vary at different points in your cycle. Since the bleeding only lasted two days and wasn’t heavy, it’s likely harmless. However, if...
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I don’t enjoy sex and I don’t know why. My next relationship I want to enjoy it to the fullest but I don’t know how.
Not enjoying sex is more common than most people admit, and it’s absolutely okay to want more from your intimate experiences. The good news is you can change that. Let’s start with understanding why you might not be enjoying sex. Could it be due to past negative experiences, anxiety, pain during penetration, lack of communication,...
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Does sex make one add weight? Like ass, thighs become bigger? Or swallowing cum.
A common myth people ask is, “Does sex make you gain weight?” and the short answer is: No, not directly. Sex alone won’t magically grow your ass or thighs. However, regular sexual activity can influence your body in subtle ways. Here’s how: Hormonal shifts during regular sex might boost your appetite or change fat distribution...
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Please when can one start seeing pregnancy symptoms? What week after sex?
Timeline for Early Pregnancy Symptoms After Sex Early pregnancy symptoms after sex can start as soon as 1–2 weeks post-intercourse. Mild symptoms like cramps may show up early, but more noticeable signs—like morning sickness, nausea, breast tenderness, and frequent urination—often appear around week 4. If you’re unsure, taking a pregnancy test or booking a consultation...
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Hiii. I just want to ask for your advice for someone about to have sex for the first time. Any tips or tricks.
Absolutely, here are some essential first time sex tips to help make the experience safe, pleasurable, and emotionally supportive: Make sure it’s what you want. You should feel mentally and emotionally ready. It’s your choice, not your partner’s decision. Choose someone you trust. Your first time should be with someone you feel safe and comfortable...
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Hi Elizabeth, I haven’t had sex for a long time and I’m single. I usually help myself by masturbating but whenever I’m done I usually feel guilty because of the Christian beliefs about masturbating but that’s the only way plus I don’t want to get involved with any man who isn’t ready to be serious but each time I help myself I can’t help but feel guilty. I even went two months without touching myself lol and I’m back at it now because horniness wan kill me.
What you’re experiencing is called cognitive dissonance. When your personal beliefs clash with your actions. You enjoy the pleasure of masturbation, but your Christian values make you feel guilty afterward. You’re not alone, masturbation guilt is something many people feel. The truth? Masturbation is completely normal. If it’s helping you cope without compromising your values...
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I am a shy and introverted person most times when I want to have sex I don’t just know where to start from. Please, I need your advice.
If you’ve ever wondered how to initiate sex when you’re shy, know that you’re not alone and it’s absolutely okay to feel this way. Here’s how to ease into it with confidence: Start small. You don’t need to dive in right away. Begin with a flirty text during the day to set the mood. Dim...
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Hiii. Please can you advise one (female) on how they could possibly spice things up for their man. Especially who can be a bit shy when it comes to being kinky.
If you’re wondering how to spice things up in bed but feel shy or a little awkward, you’re not alone and yes, it’s absolutely doable. Here’s how to spice things up in bed, even if you’re not the most confident in the bedroom (yet). Start small. A little bit of red wine can help calm...
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Hi Elizabeth. Is it weird that I like to hear men moan when having sex? I’m 25, and l’ve had sex once out of curiosity, and honestly, I didn’t enjoy it. But whenever I’m watching or reading a sex scene, I go back to watch it or read it again just to hear or imagine how the men moan. So is it weird? I’m actually saving myself for marriage cos I know I can get wild with sex when I start. And I don’t want to seem like a freak when I finally get my man and ask to moan.
Is it weird to like hearing men moan during sex? Absolutely not. In fact, many women (and men) find male moaning to be one of the sexiest, most arousing sounds during intimacy. Liking the sound of men moaning doesn’t make you weird or a freak, it just means that you’re attuned to a sensual trigger...
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Hello Elizabeth, whenever I am having doggy style with my husband, I always feel a sharp pain, like a sharp object is hitting me. Also I feel like my stomach is full and something is trying to burst my tummy.
You’re likely experiencing pain during doggy style because of the angle or depth of penetration. Doggy can hit deeper areas like the cervix or pelvic organs, especially if your partner thrusts too hard or deep. This could explain the full-stomach, pressure-like sensation too. Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID) Fibroids Ovarian cysts …can cause sharp pain during...
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Hi Elizabeth I have a question, Is it normal for my nipple to discharge a milk-like fluid when I’m not pregnant?
Nipple Discharge When Not Pregnant: Causes, Concerns, and Next Steps Yes, nipple discharge when not pregnant can happen — often due to hormonal imbalance or nipple stimulation. It’s usually harmless, but if the discharge is spontaneous, from one breast, or has a smell, consult a doctor. Avoid squeezing and book a session to assess your...
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I don’t feel too confident when I and my girlfriend have sex, how can I clear my self doubt and boost my sex drive and confidence.
If you’re wondering how to boost sexual confidence in men, you’re not alone many men feel the same way at some point in their sex lives. What you’re experiencing is completely normal and very fixable. Start by shifting your mindset: sex is not a performance, it’s a shared, intimate experience between two people. Try to...
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Hello, I have been seeing something about abortion after care. I once had an abortion few months ago and I don’t think I had anything like “aftercare”. I want to know what “after care” means, and if there is any side effect if certain aftercare measures weren’t taken after an abortion.
Why Abortion Aftercare Is Important Yes. Post abortion care or abortion aftercare is important. It helps ensure full recovery and prevents complications. It’s not too late to act. You should: Do a full blood count test Get an ultrasound to check for retained tissue Do a Rhesus factor compatibility test
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Please share post abortion care tips.
Top Post Abortion Care Tips for a Safe Recovery Avoid cold water; drink warm water for 1–2 weeks. Monitor your bleeding. If you’re still bleeding or spotting 2 weeks after an abortion, seek medical attention urgently Avoid sexual intercourse including fingering or head 1-2 weeks after an abortion to avoid infection If you notice fever,...
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I’ve been having sex since forever and I’ve never gotten pregnant. I’ve even deliberately had sex during my ovulation (as my app shows me) still nothing. I don’t want to get pregnant but I’m worried because I’m very sexually active.
Possible Reasons You’re Not Getting Pregnant Despite Unprotected Sex Why am I not getting pregnant despite unprotected sex? Regular unprotected sex increases the chance of pregnancy, but it’s not guaranteed. Stress, lifestyle, or health issues may delay conception. If this concerns you, consider doing a hysterosalpingogram and hormonal profile. If it’s with the same partner,...
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Hi Elizabeth. I’m 21 and still a virgin. I tried to have sex last year, but it was too painful, so I couldn’t go through with it. I thought I was ready, but the pain was more than I expected. I could not concentrate on anything else, my mind was on the pain all through before I finally decided to stop trying. I just want to know if it’s normal for it to be painful or if I’m not ready yet because I’ve heard that it will be less painful if you’re actually ready to lose your virginity. How will I know when I’m ready and how can I make it less painful?
You’re not alone painful first time sex is more common than you think, and what you experienced sounds like a condition called vaginismus. This is when your vaginal muscles involuntarily tighten, often due to anxiety, fear, or lack of arousal. It can make penetration feel nearly impossible. Sometimes, pain also comes from the hymen stretching...
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How do I satisfy her well even before sex. I know foreplay is important but how do I keep it intense and enjoyable by her?
If you’re wondering how to satisfy her before sex, the first step is simple but powerful: ask her what she likes. Communication makes everything better. Here are great tips to keep foreplay intense and enjoyable for her: 👉 Want more spicy ideas?Check this: 10 Hot Foreplay Ideas To Try Tonight
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Hi Elizabeth, my husband is asking me to spice things up in bed. What do you think I should do?
If you’re asking how to spice things up in bed, it likely means your man wants you to be more adventurous, take initiative, and enjoy the act just as much as he does. Here are some sexy tips to help you blow his mind: 👉 Want to really blow his mind? Grab the Ultimate Blowjob...
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Hi. Please what causes painful penetration
Painful penetration can be distressing, but it’s more common than many think—and thankfully, treatable. If you’re experiencing discomfort during or after sex, here are some possible causes of painful penetration and what you can do to fix it: Vaginal dryness – Often caused by insufficient arousal or lack of foreplay. It makes penetration uncomfortable. Spending...
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I don’t know how to ride during sex..and I know my bf really wants it. Our sex life is good ..like I mean really good.. but I always feel somehow cause I can’t ride him…I’ve watched videos and still not getting it.
If you’re wondering how to ride during sex, you’re not alone, sis. A lot of women feel unsure about it at first even after watching tutorials. But don’t worry, I got you! Let’s walk through it step-by-step: First, relax. Seriously. Tension is the enemy of rhythm and pleasure. Start by sitting on his penis—no pressure...
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I want to ask you a quick question. My girlfriend and I had sex some weeks ago and now I think I have an infection on my dick and she was the only person I had sex with. Does that mean she’s cheating and how can I tell her that I had an infection?
An infection after sex doesn’t always mean your partner is cheating. Some STIs take time to show symptoms. Talk to her calmly about what you’re experiencing. Don’t jump to conclusions—just share your concerns and suggest you both get tested. That’s the best way to stay safe and maintain trust.
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Good afternoon Elizabeth, please how long can I wait after an abortion before doing the test again?
When to Take a Pregnancy Test After Abortion You mean a pregnancy test after abortion? Wait at least 2 weeks before testing. Testing too early may show inaccurate results due to remaining hormones.
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I’m a “creamer” down there, I get so creamy and wet but I have been longing to squirt. I try not to put my mind to it, but I want to experience squirting. It just doesn’t happen to me.
So, you’re wondering how to make yourself squirt, especially as someone who naturally creams a lot. First off, that creamy wetness you experience is already a beautiful expression of your body’s pleasure. Not everyone gets that, so you’re already winning in your own way. But if you’re curious about how to make yourself squirt, here’s...