Yes, it’s completely normal to feel like you get more pleasure from masturbation than sex. Why? Because you know your body better than anyone else—you know the exact rhythm, pressure, and touch that sends you over the edge.

Maybe it’s the way you touch your clit, the angle of your fingers, or how you take your time. These are things your partner may not instinctively know.

To bridge the gap between solo and partnered pleasure, you can:

Show or guide your partner using what you already enjoy

Masturbate together to help them learn your rhythm

Incorporate toys or techniques you use solo into your sex life

Pleasure isn’t one-size-fits-all. The goal is to feel good, alone or with a partner.