Let me get a little personal here. I’ve made my fair share of mistakes and lost good relationships simply because I didn’t know then what I know now. I don’t want you to go through the same, so here are 10 relationship lessons I wish I had learned earlier.
1. Protect your relationship in public and private: This means always speaking kindly about your partner to others and highlighting their positive qualities. In private, handle conflicts respectfully and work through issues together without tearing each other down.
2. Address misunderstandings immediately rather than letting things drag.
3. Keep your fights private: Unless it’s a toxic situation, there’s no need for people to know about the fights or conflicts you have with your partner. You will forgive your partner and move on, but those you told may not.
4. True Love is Tested in Hard Times: Love feels easy when everything is going well, but true love is proven during difficult times. There will be moments when your partner gives their all, and other times when you’ll need to step up and give 100%. It’s about balance and support.
5. Focus on the positive: Don’t be the person who constantly complains or nags about what you don’t like in your partner. Acknowledge and praise them for their good qualities when it’s deserved. Yes, they may have flaws, but it’s equally important to appreciate and highlight their positive side.
6. Love is a Choice, Not Just a Feeling: The butterflies and excitement won’t last forever, and your partner won’t always sweep you off your feet. Love is the conscious decision to choose someone, even when the novelty fades or when there’s someone “better” out there. It’s about continuously choosing your partner.
7. Relationship needs maintenance: Honestly, even if you’re 100% sure that this person is THE ONE for you, you still need to put in the work, effort and commitment to make something valuable out of it. Invest in your relationship! Remember, average couples are compatible by nature, the successful ones are compatible by decision.
8. Prioritize yourself: The first person you should love is yourself, only then can you love someone else the right way. Don’t lose yourself in a relationship. Take care of yourself. Let your partner take care of themselves too. Only then can you take care of each other.
9. Being Single Is Better Than Being in the Wrong Relationship: Loneliness can make you settle for less than you deserve. But being with the wrong person is far worse than being alone. A relationship should add to your happiness, not be a source of constant stress, anxiety, or self-doubt.
10. Breakups Are Not Failures: A relationship ending doesn’t mean you failed, it just means that chapter of your life is over. Not every love story is meant to last forever, and that’s okay. What matters is what you learn from each experience and how you grow from it.
I’ve shared mine. Now, it’s your turn. What are the relationship lessons you wish you had known sooner?
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