Sex is supposed to be a fun, intimate experience that brings you closer to your partner, but sometimes, certain behaviors or red flags can raise concerns. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or just exploring something new, it’s important to recognize when something doesn’t feel right during sex. Ignoring these signs could lead to discomfort, emotional harm, or even unsafe situations.

Here’s a guide to red flags you should never ignore during sex because your comfort, safety, and well-being should always come first.

1. Lack of Consent or Communication

Consent is the foundation of any sexual experience. If someone initiates sex without asking, ignores your refusal or tries to pressure you into doing something you’re not comfortable with, that’s a serious red flag.

2. They Ignore Your Boundaries

You said no, but they keep pushing. Maybe they try to remove the condom without telling you. Or they keep bringing up a sexual act you’ve already turned down. Or they make you feel guilty for not wanting to do some sexual acts that’s a clear sign of selfishness and disregard for your well-being.

3. They Don’t Care About Your Pleasure

Sex is supposed to be enjoyable for both of you. If your partner only focuses on their own pleasure, rushes through foreplay, or doesn’t care whether you’re satisfied, it shows selfishness and that’s a red flag.

4. They Refuse to Use Protection

If they don’t want to use condoms or try to convince you that “they won’t feel anything with a condom”, take that as a big red flag. Anyone who disregards protection is putting you at risk for STIs and unplanned pregnancy. Safe sex is non-negotiable.

5. They Shame You for Your Body or Experience

If they make negative comments about your body, compare you to their ex, or judge your sexual history, that’s your sign to leave.

6. Their Hygiene is… Questionable

Bad breath. Body odor. Dirty nails. Poor hygiene is a major turn-off, and it also increases the risk of infections so run!

7. They Get Angry If You Don’t Orgasm

If they make you feel guilty or frustrated because you didn’t cum, it shows immaturity and a lack of understanding. Not every sexual experience will end in an orgasm, and that’s completely normal.

8. They Make You Feel Uncomfortable

Sex should never feel forced, awkward, or pressured. If something about the experience doesn’t feel right, listen to your gut. Feeling uncomfortable or uneasy during sex is a clear sign that something is off.

9. Overly Aggressive Behavior or Forcefulness

Sex should never be forceful or aggressive, unless it’s part of a BDSM activity with clear boundaries. If your partner is overly aggressive or they don’t listen to you when you ask them to stop, it’s a major red flag.

10. No Aftercare or Emotional Support

If they just get up and leave or act distant after sex, it might be a sign they don’t care about you beyond sex and that’s a red flag you shouldn’t ignore.

If something doesn’t feel right, don’t ignore it. If any of these red flags pop up, don’t hesitate to take action because your well-being is worth it. Remember, you are in charge of your body, and the right partner will always respect that!